What Is Meant For You Will Never Pass You By

As a senior in High School going into college, I had big plans and goals for myself. I was ready to discover my new beginnings, whatever they may be. I wanted to be involved at GSU,  to maintain a high GPA, get into nursing school, and make new friends. While all of these things were my top priorities, joining Greek Life was always at the back of my mind.

As the summer of my senior year came to an end, I started becoming more and more interested in joining a sorority. It was a new goal and dream of mine. Unfortunately, that goal quickly came to a halt when I became too overwhelmed with my other goals I had in mind- I need to focus on grades and becoming a nurse. I won't have time for this. Maybe I am not even meant to be in Greek Life. Little did I know, that thought of mine was the farthest thing from the truth.

Fast forward, and I am now a few months into my first semester of Freshman Year! Classes are going great, I have a 4.0 GPA, game days are so fun, but something always felt like it was missing. Sure, I was making “friends,” but they were the kind of friendships where you say “Hi” when you see them on campus, or when you almost feel comfortable sitting by them in a public setting because they are the only person you know. Although that was enough to make me happy for the time being, it wasn’t what I wanted for my college experience, and later I found out it wasn’t what I had prayed for either. 

A few more months go by, and I am still loving college and everything that came with it, but I still felt like it had more to offer me and that I had a bigger purpose I hadn’t fulfilled there yet. Walking to class one day, I read a sign saying “Spring Recruitment Meeting at the Williams Center! Come for more information”! And just like that, Greek life moved from the back of my mind to the front of my mind. I immediately called my mom telling her about the sign I saw- Mom, maybe that sign was an actual sign of what is missing in my life. Maybe I am cut out for this. This was the new beginning I had been hoping and praying for. 

A few days later, the day of the meeting, I am on the verge of backing out. Negative thoughts flooding my mind, anxious feelings about what the meeting could entail, when all of a sudden, I get a text from a girl in ADPi. This text immediately made every thought stop except for one- I am going to give this a shot. That night I got ready, walked to the Williams Center, took a deep breath, and walked into what I didn’t know would cause the happiest next 2 years of my life. I had the most meaningful conversations I had ever had in college thus far, and they didn’t even have anything to do with school or grades. I made my way to the ADPi table that I had been eyeing all night. The girls at that table made me feel so special- I was no longer just another student out of the thousands of people at GSU, I meant something to them. We stood there talking for so long, nothing was forced at all, and it was going great! The conversation was coming to an end, so I decided to ask one more question. “What made you go ADPi? How did you know it was what you were meant for?” Confidently and without hesitation, she said “There was always something missing for me in college, but when I walked through the doors of ADPi, there was a sign that read ‘The Lord has Sent you a Friend’ and right then I knew my prayers were answered”. Little did she know, my prayers were also answered after hearing those words come out of her mouth. For the first time I thought, I am meant for this. 

Bid day comes around, I am meeting so many new people, and I am happy. This is what was missing, something I never knew or thought I needed in my life. When I didn’t think it could get any better, I was making the best friends I had never had before. A few months go by, and it’s time to run for officer and exec positions. Everyone was encouraging me to run for something. I decided to run for a few positions, but like always, God had a bigger plan for me. Next thing I know, I was nominated and elected as the Vice President of Marketing as a sophomore in college. This position has been the most rewarding, validating, and amazing thing I ever could have done. The funny thing is that I never would have done it for myself, but it found me because I was meant for it. I could not be more grateful for this experience that God and my peers had given me.

Fast forward to now, I am a Junior in college, I have maintained a 4.0 GPA, I got into nursing school, I have made best friends, joined the sorority of my dreams, and got involved by holding a leadership position on the Executive Board. What is meant to be will be. What is meant for you will find you. Even if you don’t think you’re cut out for something, other goals get in the way, or anxiety takes over- what is meant for you will never ever pass you by. My prayers have been answered, and I am happier than ever. I know for a fact that I am where I am supposed to be, and I owe it all to my college journey, God, and Alpha Delta Pi. Do not stress about what is in store for your life, it will all unfold how it is supposed to. There is no timeline, everyone has different goals and achieve things in their lives at different times. Follow your own path, and God’s plan for you will give you everything you need at the right time in your life. Everything happens for a reason. 

Always remember, What is meant for you will never pass you by. 

XOXO, Zoey Koltz 

What it means to be an ADPi

Hi love! My name is Charlotte Snyder and I am a rising sophomore at Georgia SouthernUniversity, where I am a dedicated member of Alpha Delta Pi.

As someone who grew up with two sisters whom I am very close with, I knew I wanted to join a sorority to expand upon the sisterhood I already had. In fall of 2022 I joined Alpha Delta Pi and gained 250 new sisters, but little did I know I would gain so much more than that.

In high school, I was always very involved in clubs, sports, activities, etc. Transitioning from a small high school to a big university was daunting to say the least- where would I even begin to get involved and find my new identity? During my first few weeks as an Alpha, I learned about all the ways Alpha Delta Pi offered me to get involved within our sorority, school, and community.

Playing sports my whole life, I needed to join a team down in Statesboro to satisfy my competitiveness. Through older sisters, I quickly found out ADPi had a plethora of intramural teams, so I signed up for the first team I could: flag football. While I had never played flag football, I was a quick learner and my sisters made it easy for me. I remember before the first game I was terrified as I barely knew the rules of the game and was still learning everyone’s names. That feeling of anxiety quickly faded over the 45 minute game as my sisters and I laughed, cheered, sweat, and built new friendships. I felt so welcome and happy among a group of girls I just met and proud of myself for stepping outside of my comfort zone. We then went on to play so many more games and bring home the championship trophy at the end of the season!

Born and raised in Atlanta, I was used to the big-city life, so moving to Statesboro was a big change for me. I was stressed about what this small town could offer me, but I needed to worry about what I could offer this small town. ADPi’s philanthropy is the Ronald McDonald House Charity, an organization that provides care and comfort for the families of ill and injured children. Through countless fundraisers, events, food drives, and more, the Epsilon Pi chapter works diligently to provide any relief we can for these strong families. My personal favorite philanthropy event is “Princes, Princesses, and the Pi’s.” On this day, we transform the ADPi house into a palace and open our doors to the children of our community to enjoy a magical afternoon. This year, I stepped into the role of Princess Belle where I read, sang, and talked to children and ultimately granted every little boy/girl’s wish to meet a “real” princess. Seeing the joy on their faces and knowing that I was helping my RHMC made it clear that I was in the right place.

As I come up on my 1 year anniversary of joining Alpha Delta Pi, I like to reflect on memories like thesethat remind me why I chose ADPi in the first place and what being an Alpha Delta Pi means to me:

To be an ADPi is to try new things and explore opportunities.

To be an ADPi is to help others in your community.

To be an ADPi is to eat 14 wings in front of all of Greek life for charity (that's a story for another time ;) )

To be an ADPi is to get involved in everything, as you never know how or when the Lord will use you.

Finally, I’d like to leave you with one of my favorite verses and one that truly captures what it means to be an ADPi.

Galatians 5:13, “You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love.”

XOXO,

Charlotte

Dorm Room Essentials With Kaylor!

Hi!!! My name is Kaylor Cumbee, and I’m going into my junior year at Georgia Southern University majoring in Marketing! Personally, moving six hours away from home, and living on my own… I wanted my dorm to feel like home! I have experienced the best and worst with dorms, apartments, and houses! These last few years have allowed me to really discover the dorm room essentials I couldn't have lived without, and the ones that I continued to use even after I moved out of my college dorm room! 

Dorm Room Essentials:

1.Mattress Topper 

I cannot stress this enough!!! This has to be my number one! Every! Single! Time!!!! No matter what dorm or apartment you’re in, I guarantee you will want a mattress pad/topper! I would invest in a good one, but Amazon and Target have great options! 

2. Sound Machine

I didn’t go into college with a sound machine, but after a few weeks my family bought me one.. And when I say, it is A GAME CHANGER!!! I had sooo many problems sleeping when I first moved, and this was such a simple fix! My family got one from Amazon!! 

3. Box Fan

This also goes with my sound machine, to help you sleep!! Dorms are full of noise, and when you just want to cancel it out and relax — A box fan is the way to go!!! My roommates would also use them if they were hot and such!! I just went to my college Walmart and got one! 

4. Black-Out Curtains

Someone tell me why I never knew about these until college — and they have changed my life!!! Perfect for those after-class, mid-day naps! Also, my dorm had random lights around the window, so it helped block those out!! I ordered mine from Target! A little tip — most black-out curtains aren’t the cutest, so I added my own curtains over them! 

5. Large Water Bottle

You NEED NEED NEED!!! A Stanley, hydro jug, etc! They are the best investment, because you know you need to stay hydrated! But college is also so crazy, moving and getting into a routine — You need a good large water bottle to carry around! 

6. A GOOD Powerstrip

Obviously, you know you need power strips! But I would recommend spending the extra money and buying the powerstrips that have multiple usb ports and different types of ports! I never use my tiny power strips anymore!!! 

7. Small/Cheap Vacuum

Nobody wants a dirty dorm, but nobody wants to spend $200+ on a vacuum!!! I personally went to my college town Walmart and found a little detachable vacuum for $20! I have had this for 3 years now and it’s still amazing!!! It does the job and super easy and convenient! 

8. Wax Melter

Most dorms don’t allow candles, and I looove candles! But I never had a wax melter until college — and now I have three!!! I love how easy these are and love how much use I get out of the wax!!! I got mine from Tyler Candle Company!!! (Diva, ofc!)

9. Air Purifier 

THIS!!!!! My mom got an air purifier for my room a couple weeks after I moved, and when I say that I immediately could tell the difference — Dorms aren’t the cleanest! You want to feel as comfortable as possible! Invest in a good one, and just replace filters! I have had an Amazon one for two years now and still use it everyday! 

10. Robe - Towel Wrap

Thankfully, I had my own room/bathroom… But some dorms don’t! I would recommend a nice robe/towel wrap to put on! I know this seems like it is not an “essential”, but I seriously wear mine ALL the time! I couldn’t imagine not having one! 

I hope my advice helps you feel at home in your dorm room! Moving is definitely a challenge but I hope this list helps! And remember — It’s not supposed to stress you out, it should be fun decorating your college dorm room! Have fun!! 

With love, 

Kaylor Cumbee Fall ‘21

A Love Letter To Alpha Delta Pi

Hey y’all <3 My name is Kiley Paige Smith, but everyone calls me KP! 

Going into my first semester of college, I had decided that Greek life was not for me at the time. I know God was laughing at me for those plans because he knew what he had in store for me. Almost immediately into my first semester, I knew God was calling me to be a part of something so much bigger and I yearned to be a part of something bigger than myself. As my first Spring semester came, I knew Spring recruitment was the opportunity I needed to take. Going into it, I had no idea what to expect or what I wanted. However, the first moment I walked into ADPi, I knew God had answered my prayers because my heart felt so complete. I knew it was exactly where God wanted me to be. The girls were so welcoming and gave me a sense of home I had never felt before or even knew I needed. The contentment in my heart was unreal. 

As I went through my first semester as an ADPi, it did not take me long to realize my why. It was my sisters. My sisters are the ones who make me a better version of myself. The ones who kept expectations high for me and always believed in me. In the fall, I felt called to serve for the people I loved. I decided to run for Sisterhood Programming Specialist. For those who may not know, the position consists of planning and coordinating Sisterhood events for ADPi. With overwhelming fear and nervousness, I ran for the position and got it. I had never felt so much love and support than I ever had in my life. 

Now as I head into my last semester in ADPi, my heart overflows with internal joy and contentment knowing I have and have had the opportunity to coordinate the events that remind me daily of why I went ADPi in the first place. A position where I have the opportunity to satisfy and bring happiness to the people I love - what more can I ask for. ADPi is a home of love, loyalty, and strength. A home where no dream is too big and where there are always sisters to motivate you and to pick you up in times of failure and doubt. A home where you are always encouraged and to always be around those that ensure you that you are worthy. A home of God fearing women who have beautiful hearts and love in the same way as you. The feeling I get when I talk about ADPi is a feeling that pulls on my heart strings and emotions in a way that I have never experienced before. I wake up everyday with overwhelming gratitude knowing no matter where I go in life, I am loved, I am supported, and I am enough. Self doubt is none with God and my sisters. 

There is not one single person in ADPi that I could not love more. Every single sister brings something to the table and adds value to us all as a whole. Every single sister brings fruit to my life and for that I am forever thankful. For my sisters, I am willing to serve them in any way I can. Whether it be through an event or even trials in everyday life. I have their back just like they have mine. That is the true meaning of love and sisterhood. I wish I could say enough for my sisters to feel the tremendous love I have for them in my heart. Those who came before me and after me, they all have an immense impact on who I am and who I am going to be. For that, I owe Alpha Delta Pi and my sisters the world. 

With much love, 

KP <3

Be A Part Of Something Bigger Than Yourself

Hi friends! My name is Megan Wright, and I am an upcoming junior at GSU studying public relations! 

For as long as I can remember, service and community involvement have always served such a pivotal purpose in my life. I loved my community, and I knew that I wanted to leave it better than I found it. Whether it was fundraising, serving those who are less fortunate than me, or simply spending time with those who made my community what it was – I was eager to make an impactful difference in a place that had made such an impactful difference in me. 

I remember coming to Georgia Southern feeling nervous and unsure of how I could continue to serve my community. I knew I had chosen Georgia Southern for its outstanding sense of community, but I was in a new place, surrounded by new people, so the possibility of finding an outlet to get involved seemed limited. 

When I discovered the Panhellinic Association at GSU, I instantly knew that I wanted to be a part of it. I knew that being a member of one of these organizations would be a momentous stepping stone to getting involved at Georgia Southern. 

When I walked through the door of Alpha Delta Pi, I felt an overwhelming sense of clarity. I was surrounded by like-minded women who’s hearts for their community shined so brightly. They were kind, determined, intelligent, and so much more. I knew then and there that I wanted to call ADPi home. 

When I think about my time in ADPi and the opportunity and blessings it has brought along with it, my words often feel so trite and insufficient. I struggle to put into words just how much my community and my sisters changed the trajectory of my college career and my life as a whole. 

Being a part of something bigger than myself became being a part of Alpha Delta Pi.

“We are not put on this earth for ourselves, but are placed here for each other. If you are always there for others, then in time of need, someone will be there for you.” -Jeff Warner

To PNMs- I encourage you to always be intentional in finding a community and a home that suits your purpose. Serve that community, grow it and grow within it, and everything else will fall into place. 

With love,

Megan Wright

What are YOU waiting for?

Hello! My name is Breagh Mackinnon, and I am an upcoming sophomore in ADPi at Georgia Southern University!

I remember waiting outside of the Alpha Delta Pi house on the second day of icebreakers just trying to stay calm. My heart was beating out of my chest as I remembered my conversation with my mom from the night before. I had been frantically telling her that I had no clue how I was going to know what sorority God was calling me to. She had persisted in telling me that God already knew where I would end up and I didn’t need to feel anxious about anything.

As I began walking into the doors of Alpha Delta Pi, I saw a smiling face there to greet me and she told me her name was Megan. We got to talking about our lives and soon figured out that we had so much in common with each other. We were both dancers and loved preforming, and we were both involved in youth ministry in high school as well. Our conversation soon led to our relationship with God and how much he had done in our lives. I had lost a very close friend in high school, and my relationship with the lord guided me to a better place through that ministry.

Although it was just the first round of rush, I felt I should tell Megan about this, and the second I did, tears welled up in her eyes. Megan shared with me that she had a similar experience with her best friend during middle school as well. Our conversation ended with a hug and I instantly felt so connected to ADPi and Megan.

Walking out of the ADPi house that day, I truly felt God's presence and saw such an answered prayer! How was it possible that I had just talked to my mom the night before about how I was worried I wouldn’t know what sorority to choose and suddenly I was given such a clear answer? It was then that I just knew I would be running home to Alpha Delta Pi on that coming Sunday.

A few months later, I found myself anxiously waiting to find out who my big sister would be. As I stood in front of my big with a poster board covering her face, I prayed it would be who I thought it was. Sure enough, Megan pulled the poster board down and I ran into her arms! The feeling of waiting to find out who would be my big sister was super nerve-racking, but God truly had a plan the entire time!

When I look back on my rush experience and freshman year, I see my friendship with Megan as such a huge part of it all. She has continually been here for me through my best and worst days, and has helped to guide me through my transition into college.

Moments like waiting outside of a house during rush week or waiting to find out who your big is might seem scary, but if I could go back to these moments and tell myself there was nothing to be worried about I 100% would! College is filled with so many unknowns, and waiting for something to happen when you're not in control is hard. But God's plan for you is better than you could ever imagine.

Waiting for God's perfect timing is never a waste of time! God makes us wait for his plan because what he has in store for us is always perfectly planned out. I see now that God knew what he was doing all along and I truly had nothing to be scared of!

So what are YOU waiting for? Because I guarantee you, the Lord will lead you where you are meant to go and God’s already got this in His hands!

Advice to PNMs

Hi there! I'm Maloree Inlow, a sophomore at Georgia Southern University, and I'm excited to share a little bit about myself with you + some college advice!! 

As someone who could not wait to get out of their hometown and experience a new lifestyle, here's my take on college life! 

The key to your freshman year transition is going to be balance. College is a time of growth and self-discovery, and finding the right equilibrium between studying, self-care, and socializing is essential for overall well-being and success. Achieving balance allows you to excel academically while also taking care of your mental and physical health. It involves managing time effectively, setting priorities, and establishing healthy boundaries. Some things that help me find balance while at school are using a planner, having some reset days, taking time for myself, and making time for friends and loved ones!

Coming from personal experience, step out of your comfort zone!! College is all about trying new things! I grew up as an athlete and played multiple sports all throughout college. I wanted to continue keeping up with my health and wellness as I entered college. I started trying out the group fitness class at the RAC (GSU’s on campus gym) and remembered how much fun working out is! I knew that eventually I would want to teach my own classes and advocate fitness to others as well. I took these matters into my hands and am now a certified spin and pilates instructor! I never thought I would be teaching 20+ people and inspiring them to care about their wellness, but it is truly so rewarding. No matter what new hobby it is, I encourage everyone to find something they like and stick with it! 

With that being said, college can be stressful!! The constant exams, quizzes, homework, labs. It feels like it is never ending. Worrying about an assignment is so small compared to this amazing life you have to live. I encourage everyone to do their best, but remember that you are only in college once! HAVE FUN! If you do everything with your best ability there will be no need for stress. However, when the time comes to sit and study, find a comforting place to do so. My favorite places to study are local coffee shops and Panera! 

Lastly, become best friends with your roommates!! These are going to be the people you live with for an entire year! I was blessed to have 3 amazing roommates and our year of endless sleepovers was the best time ever. We had roommate dinners, movie nights, ice cream trips, and a ton of laughs. Even if you have absolutely no idea who they are, be kind! These girls could end up being your future bridesmaids because I know mine will be! 

I hope my advice eases your nerves! I promise it is not as scary as it may seem. College is definitely a huge transition but always stay true to yourself, your friends, your loved ones, and the lord and this will be the BEST time of your life! Kisses !!!!

XOXO,

Maloree Inlow

The Start of A New Beginning

Freshman Year- The Start of A New Beginning!

Ever since I was a little girl I always knew that someday I would rush and hopefully become a part of Greek Life at whatever University I ended up at. I grew up in Statesboro surrounded by locals that stayed a while and college students that would come and go every four years. My love for Georgia Southern University started at a young age. I was in a family full of alumni and we were the type of family that would travel miles to watch any athletic event. I'm not sure if I decided to attend GSU because my family would disown me if I were to cheer for any other team, or if it was something about the atmosphere at Georgia Southern University that made me want to rush here and attend school here for the next 4 years of college. 

I wrapped up my senior year in the middle of March due to covid, and my “new beginning” in my hometown began earlier than I imagined. I was anxious to start this new beginning because I had a feeling that I wouldn’t be able to have a “new and normal” college life. I kept my hopes up that covid would vanish in the fall and everything would be normal. In July, I was on vacation and I found out that rush would be fully virtual. My heart dropped, and all of my hopes were crushed. My outlook on joining a sorority was negative and I oftentimes caught myself questioning if I should even go through with this. It seemed like a joke - how was I supposed to connect with these girls over zoom or choose the sorority that best suits me? I prayed that my rush experience would be the best it could possibly be, and that the girls on the other side would see my true colors even through a video camera. 

My prayers were answered as I entered rush week, every conversation I had with every sorority was great. I could have seen myself making friends with the girls in every sorority. There was just something different about my conversations with Alpha Delta Pi. The girls there cared for me, they wanted to listen to me, and they were concerned about what I was looking for in a sorority. It was evident that these girls loved their chapter here at GSU. I explained that I was looking for lifetime friends that valued faith, loyalty, and commitment. I was thankful that Alpha Delta Pi invited me to come back every day. I knew from day one that Alpha Delta Pi would mean so much to me. Little did I know the impact that it would actually have on my life.. 

On bid day I ran home to 112 Olympic Boulevard and my dreams as a little girl came true! I met some pretty awesome girls.. The kind of girls that you can pick up and go on weekend getaways with after a horrible week of school.  The kind of girls that will pray for you, go to game days with you, be there for you, cheer you on at events, have movie nights with you, jam sessions and crying sessions with you at 2am. They love me for who I am, and listen to me when I need someone to talk to. The Epsilon Pi chapter was what I needed in that time of uncertainty, it was a blessing sent in disguise. 

My freshman year was better because of the Epsilon Pi chapter. Looking back now, I couldn’t imagine it any other way. I met my big Bonny Basse, who has loved me since day one. Her love for Alpha Delta Pi shines within her and inspires me. I became a part of the dance team for Alpha Delta Pi. The dance team brought me so much joy being able to continue my love for dance with 14 other girls who loved it as much as I did. We would spend hours practicing and every practice brought me closer and closer to these girls. By the end of each “dance season” I had met some of the sweetest girls and for that I am so thankful. I would attend as many sisterhood events that I could fit into my busy schedule. Sisterhoods we’re something that I always looked forward to. I got to know more and more girls better when I would attend these events and it’s a great way to stay involved in our sorority. Date nights were the highlight of my freshman year. The casino date night was the first date night that I attended and we danced the night away there surrounded by so many people that I loved. Dressing up and getting ready with the girls was so much fun, I can’t wait to see what we will put on next year! 

I end this by saying that you too can find your people in times of uncertainty and confusion just like I did. This is just the start to YOUR new beginning, you have all control of what you make of this. Go find your people and don’t look back. I promise you won’t regret it. To the incoming PNM, I pray that you make the best of this and be yourself throughout the process. Find your forever people and stay true to your heart - at the end of the week you will know where your heart is meant to be. I promise there’s always happy endings to every story ever written, you too will receive that someday. 

With Love,

Maggie Ponder Fall 20’

For the Girl Hesitant to Rush

To the potential new member that is more nervous and uncertain about recruitment than excited, I’ve been there, but I promise it is so worth it, and the Lord will put you where you need to be.

In high school, I was firm on the fact that I wouldn’t rush, and I would not be in a sorority. I knew I wasn’t the stereotypical sorority girl, and I didn’t think I fit the mold.

However, after my senior year was abruptly cut short, I became very fearful about my move to college. I knew that I had to put myself out there and find my place, so I decided to sign up for recruitment. 

Rush week was nothing like I expected, but as the week went on I felt more at peace with the process. Receiving a bid from Alpha Delta Pi is something that I will forever be grateful for. I didn’t instantly find my best friends on day one, but I am so thankful that I have now found my best friends and the Christian community that I so desperately needed.

Here are some things I wish I would’ve realized long before recruitment week.

1. Joining a sorority is not “buying friends”. I’ll be honest here, I truly thought that it was before I joined a sorority myself. It may seem that way, but there is no price on the pure happiness that it will bring. A sorority is so much more than a group of friends. You automatically have 200+ cheerleaders, supporters, and encouragers as soon as you join a sisterhood. 

2. There is no “mold.” I didn’t think I’d be accepted into a sorority because I didn’t have the cute and trendy Instagram or dress like a sorority girl. I quickly realized, there is no mold. Come as you are, and you will be accepted. 

3. Be yourself - I promised myself at the beginning recruitment that I would not change myself or my actions to get a bid. Thankfully, I didn’t have to. Being the true version of yourself will get you so much further. You will be loved and accepted for who you are!

I was so concerned and doubtful going into recruitment. I questioned it every single day. I am eternally grateful that it worked out and that I found my home away from home at 112 Olympic Blvd. The love, support, comfort, encouragement, and Christian community within Epsilon Pi is unmatched. 

So, if you’re a PNM uncertain about recruitment, I highly encourage you to take a leap of faith. I guarantee you that you’ll be so glad you did. And, to my sisters, thank you for loving so well and making it such a joy to be a part of this sorority. 

With love,

Logan Sweat Fall ‘20

Dorm Room Essentials

Transitioning from high school to college, is a significant change and step in someone’s life, and most, including myself, didn’t know what to expect. The summer before my freshman year, I watched every Youtube video possible on what the dorms looked like and what to bring to college, from clothes to kitchen utensils.

Here are some simple dorm room essentials starting with the bedroom, a rug! Rugs help give the space a little bit of color and life; honestly, the rooms can be a little dreary looking. A PSA from experience, they are easy to wash if you have any spills, such as a late-night microwavable mac and cheese. Another essential is a mattress topper! I cannot stress this enough; the mattresses are not so comfy, and the toppers definitely help. If you are short like me, you’ll need a stool! To maximize space in your room, the best option is most likely to raise your bed. They are pretty darn high, so a stool is a must need. One of my favorite things in my room was a shelf that my dad built to sit on my dresser, it was perfect extra storage. For extra closet space, a shoe rack is a definite yes! Especially, if you love shoes as much as I do.

Next, the bathroom; a shower head caddy/hanger is a necessity! They are great to store shampoos, body washes, and more. The best thing I had in my bathroom was a laundry basket for towels, because my towels were already separated ready to wash.

Now to the kitchen, if you ask anyone in college, they will say a Brita to filter your water is a must-have. If you love being organized like I do, bring baskets for your pantry! They help so much with turning your dorm into an organized space. The dorm room fridges also are not like the ones back home, they do not have an ice dispenser. Ice cube trays are something that I probably would have never thought of bringing, but they are essential.

When it comes to the living room, couch covers, couch covers, couch covers! The couches in the rooms are so old and have stains on them. Covering them up makes the space look so much nicer, and you may actually feel comfortable sitting on them after. A TV in the living room is also a great way just to have a movie night with your roommates or binge-watch your favorite show.

Dorms can actually be not half bad! I lived in the dorm Centennial Place, and I am able to look back and say it was pretty great. Make the most of it! Meet the people that live in your hall! Freshman year is something you only experience once, so have fun and try new things! You may learn more about yourself than you ever knew. Georgia Southern is a great school and has so many opportunities to get involved! From going panhellenic, having a position in a sorority, to volunteering with Serve 912, there are so many ways to meet new people! You may even find your new favorite hobby or activity along the way!

With love, 

Hailey Hallman Fall ’20

Bitter or Better?

Bitter or Better?

Do you want to be Bitter or Better? There have been plenty of times in my life where I had a choice to deal with a challenging situation in a positive or negative way. Out of the many life lessons my mom has instilled in me this one has been the most prominent one. She would say, “Maddie are you going to be bitter or better?” 

“It is not easy, but it will always be worth it”.

Bitter is easy, it is our automatic response to a hurt.  Unforgiveness and focusing on the hurt or loss will settle in your heart. It will create bitterness that will control your thoughts and actions. We have to give forgiveness to others or even to ourselves just as Jesus does for us.  We cannot let the root of hurt settle in our heart because it is toxic.

Choosing to be better takes intentional work and reveals the authenticity of one’s character. You have to decide that you are going to use times that crush your heart and life to grow personally and spiritually. Difficult times are one of the most important tools we can use to shape our lives. Painful experiences are hard to understand. It is easy to question Why Me? Why does he have cancer, why would a special friend betray me, why do I have to go through this? Sometimes the things we struggle with the most are the things that we can grow from, learn from, and help others deal with. Always remember to be grounded in a solid faith, abounding hope, and grace that is never ending. You find this true joy and peace in no one other than- Jesus. 

Choosing better starts with our mindset. We have to change the way we think. The way we think determines how we feel, and the way you feel influences the way you act. This verse really spoke to me.

Don’t try to get out of anything prematurely. Let it do its work, so you become mature and well developed. James 1:4 The Message

What? I am not supposed to want this hurt to end. I am supposed to embrace this time. Really…. That is hard! This is where intentionally choosing to be better comes into play. We have to change our mindset and think: 1) What can I learn from this? 2) What is God using this experience to teach me? 3) How can I use this painful time to help minister or support others? 

Of course the bitter side of us is human nature and what our minds automatically gravitate to. Here is where the work comes in. We have to stop and process what is happening and grow from it. This is where God is shaping us to be more like His Son, Jesus Christ. In the midst of shame, hurt, or weakness we can grow in so many ways. It will not be easy, but it will always be worth it!

What challenging time or past hurt is lying dormant in your heart as a root of bitterness. It is time for us to take a full inventory of our thoughts and mind. We know “hurt people, hurt people.” Do not allow this to happen. Do not be one of those people. Today is the best day to decide that I am going to forgive, move forward, and not allow bitterness to have any control over my life. It is your decision…. Are you going to be bitter or are you going to be better? 

Be quick to apologize, earnest to forgive, abide in fruitfulness and shine your light. 

With love, 

Maddie Milani Fall ’20

There's Something More

To the girl scrolling through Instagram taking a mental note of the outfits she doesn’t have, to the girl sitting in her bed trying to decide what picture to post & feeling worse the longer you stare at it, to the girl who is trying not to let it hurt too bad that your “friends” are hanging out without you & posting it on Snapchat, to the girl who is stressed about not having enough things to post and discouraged at the number of likes on your recent. This one's for you. 

My highschool years and early college life were dependent on one thing: appearing to have it all together on Instagram. I mean I wanted people to think that I had 80 best friends, that my teeth just happened to be that white (like I hadn’t just spent 30 minutes Facetuning the pic), and that I was the girl that everyone wanted to be. I would get stressed about family beach trips because I wanted everyone to know that I was there but the thought of my brother taking individuals...uhhh no thanks! Honestly, he did a pretty good job but that’s besides the point ;)  

My freshman year I seriously struggled with comparing my college experience to those I was seeing on social media. It felt like everyone was finding their people in the first 2 weeks & that I was the only one not having as much fun as everyone else. There were many tear-filled phone calls made in the lonely hours of the day/night as I wondered if I was doing this whole college thing wrong. I remember wondering if I should post certain things and create these fabrications of moments so I could appear that I was always busy and making billions of friends. As some of you read this, you may think this girl is weird but I’m praying (& thinking) that someone is relating to these statements. 

You will never feel satisfied by social media. You will never get enough likes, enough comments, have enough followers, have the right outfit, or post with the right people. This sounds harsh I know, but stay with me!

The problem with social media is that it’s simply a highlight reel designed to project a false image of ourselves for our own social gain. What this also means is that you will never “catch up.” It’s a vicious cycle that leaves you empty, discouraged, & maybe a little crazy. 

But Jesus. 

Jesus calls to us from heaven graciously extending an invitation to grab His hand & live a life that isn’t defined by social media and gives us a love that is not dependent on how well we’re performing. This means that we don’t have to live up to earthly standards & we can learn to shift our thinking from acceptance on social media to finding security in the arms of the One who loves us most, despite our flaws. 

This love doesn’t keep a tally of Instagram likes or how many times you did something right, it invades our everyday lives and challenges our perception of how we love others. Social media doesn’t have to define you when you are already defined as enough by the Creator. 

Please don’t think that I all the sudden woke up one morning & decided social media was no longer an issue in my life. It still threatens to consume my life & every day it’s a choice (& a whole lot of prayer) to live my life in step with Jesus than behind a screen. And to be honest, I fail, a lot. 

But Jesus. 

I don’t have to have it all together 24/7 & I don’t have to project an image of myself that is perfect because if I was perfect I wouldn’t need Jesus & that right there is the whole point of the Gospel! 

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” 

2 Corinthians 12:9

My prayer is that we’re all a little more weak. 

With love, 

Emily Grace McWhorter Fall ‘19

Freshman Year Follow-Up

Before attending Georgia Southern University, I knew I wanted to join Greek Life. However, looking back, there was no way to fathom how much Alpha Delta Pi would soon mean to me in the upcoming year. I cannot say recruitment was easy. Every sorority has amazing qualities to offer, but what I saw from Alpha Delta Pi was different. Throughout my childhood, my mom continuously reminded me of a quote that says, “Surround yourself with people who see your value and remind you of it.” Thankfully, these are the type of people I found through ADPi.

When I walked into our first sisterhood, I hardly knew anyone in my pledge class. I was honestly scared to go. However, looking back, the girls I met that day have become the closest, most caring, and supportive people I have in my life. Every college student can admit that the first semester is full of crazy changes and adjusting to living away from home. However, I believe that Fall ‘20 had a whirlwind of adjusting due to starting college during a global pandemic. The changes that this pandemic brought took a major toll on my mental health. Online learning was a huge change for me that caused a lot of stress and anxiety. Thankfully, ADPi allowed me to have a community of girls who understood my struggles and were going through the same things. My sisters constantly reminded me of my strengths and academic ability during this time. 

Many people genuinely believe that sororities are only for date nights and socials. This year is perfect proof of how wrong that idea is. During the first semester, we were unable to have socials or date nights. However, there were multiple other events (with many COVID-19 precautions) that allowed me to be involved in my sorority and campus activities. We were able to have sisterhoods, philanthropy events, and we were encouraged to support other sorority and fraternity’s philanthropy events. It is truly heartwarming to think about how many lives we have changed through Greek Life as a whole. I could go on and on about the amazing events we had this year, but my favorite would have to be Hot Dogs and Dogs, where we enjoyed a meal with our sisters and our sweet pups! (Fun fact: My dog, Ringo, now loves ADPi just as much as I do!) 

My first year at Georgia Southern University has been a huge blessing. As I reflect on my freshman year, I see how much I have grown and bettered myself as a person. I am continuously thankful to ADPi for pushing me out of my comfort zone and showing me that I can make a difference in my community. Thinking back to the quote I mentioned earlier, I can confidently say that Alpha Delta Pi has allowed me to surround myself with people who see my value and continuously remind me of it. I cannot wait to see what is in store for me and my amazing sisters in our years to come at Georgia Southern! Boom Boom!!!

With love, Lillian Lord Fall ‘20

Discipleship within Alpha Delta Pi

A word from Mattie Wynn, Grace, and Mackenzie

Like a lot of people, I struggled to find the reason why I joined my sorority. Was it because all my friends from high school joined one? Was it to be labeled cool in college? Was it because I thought I would automatically make friends before college even started? I later learned these reasons for joining a sorority would never satisfy me at all. Just because you join a sorority, that does not mean you are going to be automatically cool or instantly have friends on day one. Every now and then, I ask myself if I made the right choice joining a sorority. I can easily answer yes to that question now. That is because of God and the opportunity He gave me to disciple within ADPi. Through ADPi, I have been able to to create God-centered relationships with girls and also see how they and myself grow closer to God. Matthew 28:19 tells us we are to go and make disciples of all nations. This mission can be done in your own sorority and how amazing is it that I get to be a part of that!

With Love, Mattie Wynn Hendrix Fall 18’

Discipleship within adpi has single handedly been my favorite part of college. It is more than just a Bible study, it is a relationship truly centered around the Lord. This year I have gotten the opportunity to disciple other girls and it is my favorite part of the week! I will forever be thankful for older girls who took the time to pour into me and invest in my life. “So being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own selves, because you had become very dear to us.” 1 Thessalonians 2:8

With Love, Grace Empric Fall 19’

I think the world has lost the art of there being any depth to our friendship. The genuinely love each other deeply the way the Lord designed us to be, it takes asking them hard questions, showing up consistently, and pointing each other to the feet of Jesus daily. That’s the friendship that discipleship has allowed me to see, grow in, and experience. Diving into God’s word with these college girls has surely been the honor of my life. We will be better friends, better women of God because of it.

With Love, Mackenzie Williams Fall 17’

The Year as President

Epsilon Pi, where do I even begin!! Reflecting back on 2020 brings back so many genuine memories that I will cherish forever. Even through a year of uncertainties, I find peace knowing that everything happened for a reason in God’s Perfect Plan, and I am so thankful He gave me the opportunity to help lead the Epsilon Pi Chapter. 

To my Exec team, 

Thank you for your constant commitment, strength, and loyalty to myself and our chapter members. Thank you for trusting me unconditionally through the uncertainties we experienced. I could not have made it through this year without each and every one of you. I will miss all the laughs and fun times we shared together. I love y’all so much!!!

To my advisors,

Thank you for being there for me from the beginning. This year would not have been possible without the help of each and every one of you. Through the good and the bad, you never doubted me. Instead, you were there to help me learn and grow in every situation. Epsilon Pi is so truly blessed to have advisors that are so dedicated and loving to the whole chapter.

To my officers,

Thank you for your optimistic attitudes and dedication throughout the year. When times were tough, you were all willing to push through and provide opportunities for our members to bond with each other in the midst of this pandemic. I am so proud of all we accomplished in 2020 and I thank you for giving it your all. 

To my sisters/best friends (Addie, Kendall, Mackensie, Grace, Avery, Sydney, Morgan, and Savannah),

Thank you for always being there to support me in my best and most difficult times of this past year. I would have never in a million years pictured myself being a President of 250+ girls and it is because of you all believing in me. I am so truly blessed for Epsilon Pi bringing me my ‘Girl Gang’. 

To my entire Epsilon Pi Chapter,

Thank you for never giving up on me. Our chapter would not be where it is today without each and every one of you. I have learned so much from you more than you know, and I am forever changed by the love and grace you have shown this year. Remember that you will never get these years back so live it to the fullest! I pray that this chapter continues to be filled with women who are engaged and admired at all times. Leading this chapter has been the biggest honor and the greatest privilege. I love you all so much & thank you for the past year!!!

With Love, Sydney Starling Epsilon Pi President (2020)

Dorm Life: Tips and Tricks

To the future freshies.... wish I was back in your shoes. Welcome to the best year ever! There are so many things to look forward to about your freshmen year, but for me one of my favorite parts was living in the dorms. Of course it is a scary time, being away from home for the first time, but this is also your first step into freedom. You get to go to bed anytime you want, eat whatever you want for dinner, decorate your room super duper cute, and of course have a year long sleepover with your roomies. As I’m going into my sophomore year I am definitely excited to see what this year has in store for me, however I definitely am going to miss the dorm life. Here are some tips and tricks on how to make this transition a whole lot easier.

1. Make sure you get to know your roomies. Whether they are people you have met from home, online or random roommates, they are going to be with you for the rest of the year. They are going through the same transition as you and having one another will make the process a lot more fun. Whether ya’ll are having a night in binge watching Netflix movies, helping one another get ready for date nights, or just going with one another to get food from landy or lakeside, having each other will be a huge benefit. My roomies turned into some of my best friends and I could not imagine freshmen year without having them around for constant love and support. 

2. Use the dining hall to your advantage. No it is not a 5-star meal that you will be getting but it is already paid for and once you find what you like, it really isn’t that bad. My personal fav is lakeside, never missed out on the star hash browns for breakfast and oriental chicken and fried rice for lunch!! I’m definitely going to be missing the food this year and how easy it is to go in between classes for an already paid for meal. Also, it is okay to sit by yourself, we have all been there before and it is not as bad as you think, I would always do homework while eating by myself. 

3. Bring a Brita. Cannot stress enough how much of a lifesaver this is. Not only do you save money by not having to buy cases of water bottles every week, but something about that Brita water is 10x better, trust me. 

4. Bring pictures. Lots and lots of pictures, whether it is of your family, friends or even your dogs, bring them. There is going to come times where looking at those pictures in your room will make it feel more like home and come in handy during stressful times. 

5. Make the most of it. We all know from the previous few months how things can change at the drop of a hat @corona. Meet your neighbors, never say no to those random dirt road driving nights with your friends, go to all the date nights and socials, and just have fun. Your freshmen year only happens once so make sure you live it up the best you can!

Trust the process during your freshmen year. It can be difficult at times, but it can also be so much fun. Study hard but have fun! Wish I could go back and do it all again, this is a year of trying new things and making friends, don’t be afraid.

With love, Taylor Holwell, Fall’ 19

Bittersweet Goodbye

Wow. As I am sitting here, reflecting on my time in ADPI there are so many emotions running through my head.  I am so sad that I will be closing the door to the best four years and starting the next chapter of my life.  Three years ago, I rushed as a sophomore and I was so nervous I would not find “my home away from home.”  As cliché as this sounds, Alpha Delta Pi IS my home away from home.  The girls in this chapter have supported me in times I needed it, been a shoulder to cry on during the bad days, and always pushed me to be the best person I can be.  Our bond is real. It has been so comforting knowing I can walk into ADPI with a house full of girls that are truly accepting of each other and exemplify what a true sisterhood is like.  Epsilon Pi will always hold a special place in my heart and the friends I have made in the last 3 years will be my forever friends. 

I want to thank ADPI for bringing me two girls in particular, Chelsea Burandt and Emma Stillwell.  

Chelsea, your radiant smile and positive attitude lights up every room you are in.  You possess every quality of a Christian woman and I am so thankful He brought you into my life. I will miss our morning walks with Major and Banks and our dinner dates that turn into us talking for hours at a time.  You give the best advice, and I’m thankful to have such a caring best friend that listens to me even when I keep you up past your 10:30 bedtime.  

And Emma… you know I could list thousands of stories, from wearing wigs (and our Panda head, Roxy) around our house for the past 2 years, doing speak to talks to everyone who has ever walked in our house, and all of our late nights in 142, but the thing I will miss the most about you is your ability to make me laugh no matter what we’re doing.  You understand me better than anyone and I could not have made it through college without you.  It has been so heartwarming growing in our faith together (shoutout to Makenzie Williams) and experiencing everything college has thrown at us together.  You’ve been by my side through it all and I want to say thank you for that. 

The best advice I can leave behind for my sisters and future sisters is never miss a date night, play in all the intramural games you can, GO ON A MISSION TRIP (I promise it is the most life changing experience), stay up late with your roommates even when you have a test at 8 A.M, make the most of everyday with your best friends and never miss an opportunity because we don’t get to live in the same house, or a few houses down from each other, for the rest of our lives.   Thank you ADPI for providing me with true friendships, a place to call home, and memories that I will cherish forever. 

Love, Claire Durden Fall ‘17

2020 President Elections!

We are SO thankful for the outstanding leadership this past year with Tayler Wickham as our president! And we are SO excited for Sydney Starling to takeover as our 2020 president!

A word from Tayler

“To the amazing women of Epsilon Pi, thank you. Thank you for trusting me with this job. Thank you for supporting me in all my decisions. Thank you for teaching me how to lead. And most most importantly, thank you for loving me unconditionally. 

When I decided to go to Georgia Southern, it wasn’t a big shock since I’m from Statesboro. What did throw my friends and family for a loop was when I told them that I wanted to be President of ADPi. Never in a thousand years did they think that I would take on such a leadership role, and neither did I. Words cannot express how lucky I was to lead a group of God-fearing, motivating, and loving girls. 

Looking back on this year, there is only one word I would use to describe it, rewarding. The people I have met, the networks formed, and the bonds created will last a life-time. I will always be able to look back on this experience and know that I was not shaped by anything I did, but by every single girl in this chapter. 

To Sydney and the new leadership team of Epsilon Pi, breathe. Take it all in. It goes by too quick and while you might want to count down the days until you “pass the torch”, trust me when I say you’ll eventually want to do it again. To the whole chapter treat this new exec and officer group like the sisters that they are. Thank you again for having faith in me this year and reminding me exactly why ADPi girls are the best girls… I love each one of you so very much, thank you for the best year.”

Loyally, Tayler Wickham Epsilon Pi President (2019)  AC ‘16

A word from Sydney

Wow, I am so very honored to serve as the next President of Epsilon Pi! I’m excited to apply what I have learned so far and strive to grow during my time as President. The sisterhood that I have made over the past few years have been something that I will cherish forever. I am inspired by how strong and resilient our chapter is, & excited to see what we can accomplish together in 2020!

A special Shoutout to Tayler for always believing in me and being such a good example of how to lead the Chapter. You have been such an inspiration & your selfless leadership did not go unnoticed. ILY.

Loyally, Sydney Starling Epsilon Pi President (2020) AC ‘17

Embracing Uncertainty

Uncertainty is something we face everyday. As humans we are naturally triggered to believe that uncertainty is scary. But what if it is not? What if uncertainty is something to welcome with open arms and embrace for all it is?

As my last semester of college approaches I cannot help but wonder what is going to happen when I graduate. There are moments when I become fearful of where I will end up or if I will get a good job, but most of my moments are filled with excitement and gratitude. I can look forward to whatever may be coming because I know it will be great. I am grateful for the excitement I have because I have already had the best journey here. 

This summer I had the privilege of working as an intern in Los Angeles for one of the nation’s top off-price retailers. I was way over my head. This was the first time I was going to have to live on my own, make new friends and be isolated on the other side of the country for a whole 3 months– totally out of my comfort zone. In the midst of the questions and all the uncertainty I reminded myself to breathe. I thought, haven’t you done this all before? It was not quite the same, but I had been in that position once before. This is the moment I understood that we do not have to have all of the answers to life’s questions. 

I traced back to that memory of coming to college in 2016. I had to meet all new friends, live with strangers, and live 4 hours away from my family (which honestly felt like the other side of the country back then). I was extremely doubtful and had a million questions running through my head all the time. Would I find a good group of friends? Would I want to be involved on campus? Would I even get into a sorority? Would my social life and school life be what I hoped they would be? I was not embracing uncertainty. I wanted to know all of the answers and what the next four years would hold for me, but I was so wrong to live that way. 

Looking back on those moments, I laugh at myself. Needless to say, I am glad I pushed myself when I came to college even though I was scared. I have had such a blessed experience. I did find a good group of friends, I did get involved, I got into the best sorority (I may be bias), and my social and school life are far better than I could have ever asked for. My days and nights have been filled with laughter, love, tears and warmth– all which has made me forget about the doubts and questions I have ever had. 

My gratitude for embracing uncertainty is unmatched to any other emotion I have felt recently. I genuinely believe in falling in love with the unknown. Life ends up being so amazing when we don’t try and figure out all of the answers and our fears become so, so small. Take it from someone who has taken almost four years to figure it out– life is better that way. 

“Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won't have a title until much later.” —Bob Goff.

XoXo - Alyssa Jennings, Fall ‘16

I love Jesus & I love being an ADPi

I was raised in a Christian home, with parents who demonstrated what it is like to live a life for Christ. Coming to college, I knew it was the beginning of me making my faith my own. When considering joining a sorority, I was nervous about finding people who would encourage me in my faith. I was a scared little freshman, who didn’t know why God had placed her where she was. Sometimes I wish I could go back and tell freshman me that everything was going to be amazing and God is going to surprise me in ways I never thought possible. 

At the beginning of my freshman year, I really struggled. Not many admit that, but freshman year was really hard for me. It is the first time I wasn’t living in the same house as my parents and sister, and the first time I wasn’t surrounded by a Christian community. My high school was a small Christian school, so college was a bit of a culture shock. I knew that things went on in the world, but it was the first time I had been directly exposed to it in my own life. I desperately wanted that Christian community and one of the places I found it was ADPi. 

“They are my family when I am three and a half hours away from my family. ”

When I joined ADPi, I quickly met many girls who were passionate about Jesus and radiated His love to everyone they met. They encouraged me and loved me through my highs and my lows. I never expected to find the community I did in ADPi. 

There are so many girls I could name who have been influential in my walk with the Lord in college. To name a few, Mackenzie Williams (who happens to be my precious big), Greer Kerns, Ally Burkhalter, Emily Sims, Hannah Garcia, Mattie Wynn Hendrix and Olivia Dowe. Each of these girls have demonstrated the overwhelming and unconditional love of Christ and I can’t express how thankful I am to them for that. They helped make Statesboro feel like home. They are my family when I am three and a half hours away from my family. 

Yes, sororities sometimes have a bad reputation. There are so many stereotypes and movies out there that portray sorority girls as ditsy girls who care more about appearances than anything else. But I have found something special in the girls I have met through ADPi. I have found community, I have found love, and I have found people who are stewards of the Gospel and are bright lights in our sorority and on our campus. Jesus is present wherever His servants are, and He is definitely present in ADPi. 

To those who have stood by me and loved me so well, I love y’all more than words can say and I thank God for friends like y’all. And to everyone reading this, Jesus loves you. I hope you run to Him every day and trust Him with your life. I know it was the best decision I have ever made. And if you ever need anyone to talk to, I know for a fact any of the girls I listed or myself would love to be there for you.

Love, 

Hallie B. (Fall ’18)